We all do it. We bring the inspiration overwhelm on ourselves. We keep searching and searching for the perfect resource when we already have all that we need.
Right here, right now, we have enough. We don’t always need more.
I think it’s really a stalling technique. (Well, that and lingering childhood messages of not being good enough!!!)
Once we’ve collected all of the resources, the stories, poems, handwork ideas, supplies, Pinterest images…it means that it’s time to really get down to business. To decide how and what and when we’ll present to our children. To Decide and Commit.
I have a quotation on my wall, “Clutter is postponed decision making.” For some of us, deciding and committing is hard because we are unsure of what to do next, or lack the confidence to know we are doing right by our precious children! This homeschooling thing feels like a huge responsibility.
For others, deciding and committing is hard because we aren’t sure if we have the best ideas yet. What if there is a better idea/book/project out there that I just haven’t found yet?
The truth is that the searching part is fun and the deciding and committing part is harder. It takes more courage, more vulnerability to put ourselves out there, to put ourselves on the line, to own it.
As my friend Sheila says, “You have enough, and you are enough.” (If this is something you are working on…and aren’t we all, really?…check out her series, From Wholeness, over on her blog, Sure as the World.)
But you know what? It all works out! Really, it all works out. And we only need a limited number of resources because we have a finite amount of time!
So how do we stop searching and start committing? I suggest you use whatever limiting strategies work best for you!
- Set a timer and give yourself a fixed amount of time to search for (fill in the blank) and then be done.
- Give yourself a deadline of say next Wednesday, or August 15th, or whatever makes sense to you, and then stick with it.
- Estimate how many ideas you actually need! For example, if your block is three weeks long and you will be doing lessons three days a week, you’ll need eight stories. (That’s nine days minus one, since you won’t present a new story on the last day. And if you want to carry a story over from one week to the next. If you don’t carry over, you only need two stories a week for six stories all together.) Doing a four week block and four days a week? That’s eleven to fifteen stories, depending on how you work it. If you don’t want to overlap stories, you only 1/2 the number of stories as the days of lessons. So do the math!
- If you do one Handwork project per block, you only need that many Handwork ideas! Six? Seven? Or maybe even fewer. If your children are young and/or learning a new skill like knitting, it may take you more than one block to finish a project!
In the end, only kindness matters. (Do you know that Jewel song – Hands? Beautiful! Song and lyrics are here.)
So be reasonable in your search. And know when it’s time to move into the commit and decide mode. When it’s time, take a deep breath and jump in. You’ll try out a few things, tweak a little, regroup, and then try again. That’s the nature of homeschooling.
And really, it all works out. Because what your children really want and need is YOU.
Need some help sorting and sifting, deciding and committing? I offer Mentor Sessions to Mamas just like you!